“Most girls are after money” – Mother shares 17-year-old son’s take on dating pool

A Nigerian mother shares her 17-year-old son’s blunt assessment of Lagos’ dating pool, stating the role of money in relationships, especially among teenagers.

Twitter user @nwaoma007 recounted the moment when her son expressed frustration with girls his age, claiming, “There’s no girl left in this Lagos. All of them are after money.”

The post revealed a heartfelt exchange between the mother and her son, who described how money has become a perceived “trophy” in relationships, even among young girls living at home and dependent on their parents.

Amidst the outpour of emotion, the mother asked her daughters for their perspective. Their response confirmed the boy’s observation, explaining that even when there isn’t an explicit demand for money, a level of financial spending is often expected.

17-year-old boy shares horrible experience about Lagos dating pool

“My daughter was all dressed up to go out on a date. After we gassed her up and waved her off, her younger brother shook his head and said, “Before I bring any girl to this house, it will be long!”

I was slightly surprised. “Seriously? Why?” With a look of cynicism older than his years, he said “Mum! There’s no girl left in this Lagos. All of them are after money. If they come here? No way.”

Me:🙄Guy you’re just 17. What are girls in your age bracket who live at home and are funded by their parents doing with money? He replies. “Mum. They are the worst. The money is like a trophy or something. They think it’s proof of how much a guy likes them.”

Now I’m left wondering; Are my girls guilty of this? Has money without more become a measure of a man’s love and commitment? How did we get here? Or has it always been this way and I’ve forgotten?🤷‍♀️

I understand the phrase “putting your money where your mouth is” but. . . 🤷‍♀️ So I asked my girls. The answer: Yes, there are people who ask outright, and just as many who don’t.

“But even when there’s no ask, apparently it’s expected to a certain degree that a guy ought to spend. I get this. Sure some spending is “expected,” but where does one draw the line? What’s acceptable? What is avarice?”