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Otedola’s Daughter Shares Touching Story about Living with Her Autistic Brother

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Otedola's Daughter Shares Touching Story about Living with Her Autistic Brother

World Autism Awareness Day was held yesterday, 2nd of April to create awareness for children with special needs.

Billionaire Femi Otedola’s daughter, Temi Otedola has shared a touching story about her only brother, Fewa, who is autistic.

According to Temi, who wrote the article on her blog JTO Fashion, she and her siblings found out about their brother’s condition in 2004.

In her words,

“Autism Awareness day was launched 9 years ago to raise awareness and conversation about the people living with autism around the globe. with this in mind, I have decided to share my own personal experience with autism.

Before getting to my own personal journey of loving and knowing someone on the autistic spectrum, I think it’s important to first describe what it is to those of you reading who are less familiar. Essentially, autism is a social development disorder which affects the cognitive, communicative and interactive ability of the brain.

People with autism struggle with heightened sensory stimulation and need a lot of attention and support from their parents, teachers and siblings to ensure they can lead the most productive and happy life possible. Raising awareness is not the main goal at this point–understanding is, and even more important–acceptance. So this Autism Awareness Day I ask for all of you, to appreciate, love on, or simply accept those living with autism.

How has autism personally affected my life?
In 2004, my mum called my sisters and me into her bedroom. With the composure only a mother can have, she told us that our baby brother, Fewa, had ‘special needs’. While my sisters asked questions, all I could do was think about what this would mean for me, the already overindulged, youngest of three girls.

Thankfully, my selfishness quickly wore off and Fewa quickly became the centre of our family. The role of an older sister always entails some sort of responsibility. However, the role of an older sister to an autistic sibling is a great deal more work. At first, it seemed like every day with him was a challenge, especially for my mother. I remember seeing my mum helping Fewa with simple tasks like brushing his teeth, helping him to get dressed, or feeding him lunch, with each day ultimately ending in exhaustion. Our family has been so blessed to have help from carers, but no one can deny the resilience my mother has had raising Fewa. It is the thing I most respect about her.

Every day, I see him becoming more independent. Our relationship is becoming less one-sided; I can truly say that we are friends. Fewa doesn’t need anyone’s sympathy. He is the most genuine and caring person I know. This is probably why I have never seen Fewa’s autism as necessarily and totally negative, it is a unique characteristic that adds to the complexity of the person that he is.
I am not naïve or unrealistic. I certainly have some gnawing worries about the future.

Fewa will always need support of some kind. At age sixteen he still requires 24 hour help. I would say that the biggest misconception about autism is that people who have it are  socially inept geniuses  – Rainman, anyone? Yes, that is true for some autistic people, but there is a reason the official term is “autism spectrum disorder”. It is a spectrum, and it can range from children who are not able to speak at all to children who can go to normal schools.

No matter what I do, I need to build my life with Fewa in mind. My parents won’t be around forever, and his care and well-being will become the responsibility of me and my sisters. It is true that consideration for Fewa will always affect the decisions I make in my life. Despite this, Fewa is by no means a burden. These worries do not reduce the immense love I have for my brother who has brought so much joy and shown me the purest form of love. To quote The Bard, “Love sought is good, but given unsought is better.” It is Fewa’s unconditional love that has shaped me into the woman I am today – a sister, a teacher, a carer and a best friend.

Credit: http://jtofashion.com/world-autism-day-story-living-autism/

62 COMMENTS
  1. When ever I hear or see billionaire this and that, I just dey reason am, e bi like some people just escort others come this world… That’s why me no dey use that music joke #baba_God_and_my_call

    • autism spectrum disorder, refers to a range of conditions characterized by challenges with social skills, repetitive behaviors, speech and nonverbal communication, as well as by unique strengths and differences. They don’t talk d behave abnormally d do Wat they want not wat u want they don’t talk mch but if they say a wrd they repeat them like broken record.. Must of dem though are alws intelligent and creative

    • Asperger’s Syndrome is quite different from autism @Mercy don’t mix it up… autism is worse and they are generally regarded as mentally ill sick people…

    • Here in Germany they are not treated as sick or abnormal…they are classified as slower than average. they attend normal school, they are treated or handled as normal kids…they eventually grow out of it….my neighbours son is an author with his own family and He is Autistic…

  2. There is nothing You will not see in billionaires’ homes…. It’s not surprising, it’s normal.

  3. Just when you think they have all, without knowing that there is hidden problem behind every smile… Besides autism hmm…. i don’t think there is a cure for it. May God help them!

    • There is my dear depends if detected in an early stage.Toni braxon son is much better now.she noticed it on time 👆

    • There is no remedy or cure to it…it’s natural… They were born like that… Very difficult to manage.

    • Some are not born like that, some develop it due to traumatic experience and other factors. If detected on time, some do change

    • autism spectrum disorder, refers to a range of conditions characterized by challenges with social skills, repetitive behaviors, speech and nonverbal communication, as well as by unique strengths and differences. They don’t talk d behave abnormally d do Wat they want not wat u want they don’t talk mch but if they say a wrd they repeat them like broken record.. Must of dem though are alws intelligent and creative….copy ad paste

  4. Hmmm….its God doing oooo….but had it been his fam threated him with isolation and all that,he wouldnt have coped with it..#luv mah fam

  5. I dnt no y rich men always hve big problems no matter d money hmmm,well i thank God for my family we are poor nd happy

    • It’s not about being rich or poor…. autism is no respecter of wealth….. get your facts right….

    • It not about the money. My younger sister is suffering from it n we are not wealthy but OK to some point. It’s frustrating to be around such people.. All they need is care. As the first child of my parents I’m used to it cos when they both leave this world, who ll take care of her? Be grateful my dear. People go through alot that you can imagine

  6. So the rich also cry……unto whom much is given much is expected….all that glitters isn’t gold folks.

  7. Its is well …but there is always one tin or d other in these billionaire’s home …the son is cute though

  8. God is your strength dear but your brother is so cute. He doesn’t even look it.

  9. It doesn’t hav a cure bt u cn teach d person hw 2 b independent on his own jst like Antara in zee world

  10. Eeeyahhh….this is touching…. Fewa ure a winner already…. Thank God for the bond shared among your siblings and loving mum. I can just imagine!

  11. DJ Cuppy ure a darling. God will give u strength from above…. FANS HERE WATCH YOUR COMMENTS …..IT COULD YOU!!!

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